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Anonymous asked:

Is it wrong to prefer JM as a bottom? (Like, kink wise & I have no prob with JM topping btw) I know bedroom action in fanfics are often over exaggerated & non-sensible. I’ve read a couple of detailed tweets made by ppl on why the fanfics are ‘objectifying’ them & how a real relationship actually works. I would like to know if my mindset is harmful to anybody so that maybe I could change it...?

Nope. There is absolutely nothing wrong with bottom Jimin. Pretty sure all of us have definitely read bottom Jimin. Technically it’s bold for us to even assume they’ve fcuked but if we’re talking about fics.. it’s strictly preference. There’s nothing wrong with that.

What’s toxic is only when people start mixing fanfic and reality and moulding your idols into someone that they’re not. Putting them in skirts and lace and fishnets and making them whine and stuff is all cool in the fic world, I get it. You guys want to get creative.. and you think they look good in them. Okay. Not everyone’s cup of tea but as long as you don’t mention BTS it’s fine.

But things like “Jimin can’t top. He’s a bottom.”

Leaving no room for doubt and making one or the other wear the pants or be the girl is toxic for several reasons.

1. Homophobia/Heteronormativity

You may say “It’s not that deep” but think real hard about why Korea is completely okay with mlm / wlw fan service when homosexuality is still not accepted. The same reason why men loves lesbians but some of them get so offended by gays.

Some people on tumblr get legitimately turned off by Jimin topping or JK bottoming bc Jimin seems cuter and softer and JK has more muscles and there’s this need for them to put these two into specific roles. 1 has to be weaker damsel and the other has to be the protective knight.

That’s unnecessary. Even with hetero relationships women can be the protector as well. We are human beings with strengths and weaknesses and experiences. We’re not movies with one specific issue and climax and resolution. We have a gazillion thoughts every month.

We have reasons why we do things or get angry or upset or initiate a conversation or a skinship. It’s all on us. But there’s these people who reduce them into 2 dimensional characters and give them a role to play and are only satisfied when they conform to it. They’re human beings. Not your play things.

Don’t contribute to a culture where the LGBTQ are only acceptible when it comes to your aesthetically pleasing idols. Equality period.

2. Manipulating your idols into something that they’re not:

Just yesterday I read an ask about how Jungkook likes Jimin when he’s feminine. Just last week I saw a comment about how Jimin’s more comfortable with himself now that he’s allowed to be a girl.

Newsflash:

• Jimin is not a girl.

• Jimin has never said he was a girl at heart

• Jimin naturally goes back and forth between femininity and masculinity because everyone on this planet has both types of attributes.

• Jimin knows how good he looks in front of the cameras and he also knows what the fans want. Know to tell apart the difference between Jimin vs Jimin’s stage persona. He is neither 100% masculine nor 100% feminine.

The whole femme vs homme shindig is a social construct human beings created to better understand our world. Aside from anything physical or biological, we’re all made up of decisions and habits.

Appreciate them for who they are.

Otherwise it’s basically misgendering.

Overexaggerating their IRL personalities according to fics makes zero sense. Draw the line. Make it clear. Know your boundaries.

3. Sexual preferences in real life couples:

To say Jimin can only top is as unrealistic as purely bottom Jimin. Even if they were hetero, a woman can put on a strapon and fuck a dude. What makes you think two men with the same tools can’t do the same?

Sex is purely up to the preference of the couple. If Jikook were to fuck and Jimin’s more likely to take the lead, there’s no saying if one day that will change and JK feels like giving and Jimin, receiving. It’s about how comfortable a couple is in the bedroom. And we know shit about how active their sex lives are.

4. Dom/Sub

Strictly kinks. The term comes from BDSM play and not every couple falls into these roles. The fact that people even forget this is insane to me. I’m not a big fan of the whole daddy kink shit. You guys might enjoy it and it’s kinda part of the fandom culture but let’s be honest here..

There are people who do that but there are loads more who don’t.

I don’t ship Jikook. I support them. And it gets a little weird sometimes when all these kinky stuff is mixed into a couple I think might be real bc it’s pretty unrealistic. They’re not horndogs. I’m pretty sure these boys can keep it in their pants longer than a lot of people think they can. I like natural shipping better and that’s personal preference. But fics are fine. Again.. draw the line.

Also..

5. Sex =/= Love

Sex isn’t everything in a relationship.

And someone’s feelings don’t get nullified even if they’ve never been physically intimate. Such is life. Love is real as long as the people involved feels it. Idk if it’s the hollywood/western influence or if it’s just societal norms but sex isn’t something taboo or controversial.

Sex is a beautiful thing when done with the right person but children these days have it misunderstood as something daring and momentous when it’s something passionate and beautiful.

See, that’s what the app is perfect for.